Searching for Mr & Mrs Right

There is another aspect of life that tickles my fancy this morning. Have you ever thought about the behaviour of married couples? It seems they are forever concerned with either knowing that their partner is Mr. Right or Mrs Right.

I am slowly beginning to accept that there is nothing like the right man, in a marriage. Neither is there Mrs Right, but sinners saved by grace alone. I think the ability to laugh at some of the bizarre behaviour of your partner is a great gift. I think it is even more important that we learn to laugh at ourselves.

Where did we learn the idea that being a Christian means that we are flawless and so always get it right in all areas of our relationships? The truth of the matter is this, in most areas of our lives we are in the dark, which means that we need God to show us the way ahead. Do you know that most of us will have fewer grey areas if every prayer was answered instantly. God sometimes chooses to train us in the act of making good decisions. This might lead us into places that we did not want to visit; we might have to face issues that we would have wanted to leave alone; God sometimes changes us to equip us to do the right thing. This process takes time. So it is important that those around us are protected from the consequences of our floundering in the darkness.

The married couples that pray for each other are more likely to be trained and given the perspective of God about their relationship.

The next time you look at your husband or wife, remember that God is working in and through them to make them who he wants them to be. Pray that God would make you what he wants you to be so that their journey with God is not impaired. I think you should also spend time praying for yourself that God will continue to show you how to become all that he wants you to be.

There is a need for continual forgiveness and patience so that God would be glorified in our marriages.

Building a Successful Marriage

Whenever you feel dumped on by your partner, remind them politely of your feelings and suggest other ways of dealing with the situation. Remind them that it might be more profitable to share their complex emotions with supportive friends.

• What a difference it would make, if those friends are able to listen without giving solutions .
• It is easier to carry out your own solutions rather than trying to implement the ideas suggested by a friend.

Building a Successful Marriage

I think it is important that the individuals in a marriage learn how to deal with their complex and confused emotions without dumping these on their partner. Remember your partner has got more than enough of their own challenges to unravel.

• Have you tried writing down your feelings?
• Try it and tell me what you think.

Building a Successful Marriage

Have you ever thought about the challenges that are facing marriages today? Are you sometimes stunned by the complexities of emotions revealed in a mariage? Are you willing to come on the journey with me as we try to uncover the secret of a successful marriage? Welcome on board!!!!!!